C’mon, let’s admit it…. almost every man does at some point in their lives. That jittery feeling of not really know how to handle a situation fluidly when they see a woman … whom they feel society has placed a premium upon.

Seriously, the truth is that we might not even be so attracted to her, it’s just that society causes us to feel this way and through virtue of subconscious conformity, most average men tend to act this way as if she’s untouchable.

One mistake that men tend to make in online dating is that many are going after what they perceive to be the most prized women.  The problem becomes two-fold and is not actually what you expect.

First and foremost, without the practice of being a good lover on ALL types of women (average ones included), you simply don’t have the confidence to handle whaever is thrown your way. Thus, that moment you finally meet a “10″, you feel like something may screw this up because you did not take time to build the experience and confidence in yourself.

Secondly, realize that your ‘10′ is not necessarily society’s ‘10′ … and here lies the real reason why you may not be getting those ’10s’ … it’s because your profile does not gel with them since they are not actually who you’re looking for. You can change it up and fake it … but now it’s just a losing battle after she meets you.

The second principle may take you a while to really internalize what I mean.

One practical solution is to stop mentally categorizing women on a number scale…. it’s simply those you ARE attracted (a minimal amount to want to experience with her at least) to and those you are NOT.  Just meet those you feel you are attracted to, get some experience and in little time, you’ll start to grow naturally.